[hey, look, it's a not-friends-only post.]
So, someone on my friends list made a friends-only post with an obituary of someone who died in New York two years ago. And of course, it was the typical obituary: this was a good person who enjoyed life and didn't have any problems, or something.
This reminded me of this
combination of suicide note and obituary (though hunting it down took a while, since it had moved); the contrast between the two descriptions of the same event leads me to doubt the accuracy of any obituary in terms of really understanding whether a person faced any significant sorrow.
I also came across this
; I had many reactions to it, but one was to wonder why it is that the problems people wanted to fix were gun control and parental involvement. (Oh, and he had good parents, too, whatever the fuck that means.) Why is it that someone who is that isolated and unhappy is not considered a problem unless they kill someone? Isn't it a tragedy that they never find happiness in life, in and of itself, even if they never kill someone? And why are you sure that gun control is a much more compelling fix than fixing the emotional environment? People do die with much more mundane weapons, on occasion.